7 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: the Corinthians obviously wrote Paul a letter. From the following ‘response’ it was about SEX, having it or not , I assume. It is good for a man not to touch a woman. possibly someone made the statement of abstaining from sex so as to focus all on God type thing, and Paul is confirming. 2 Nevertheless, this word seems to go with the idea because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. so not to ‘tempt’ natural desire for sex, have sex with your spouse. I personally don’t read anything into the ‘his own’ ‘her own’ it is just the way they talked. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, women HAVE affection DUE! But how much is due? and likewise also the wife to her husband LIKEWISE TO HUBBY. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. We have authority, I don’t think this means bossy like do this do that, but power. I have no power over my body, I have to make it exercise, not eat sugar, etc. But my body, entices my husband, it causes him to desire me, and visa versa. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, to have no sex should/could be discussed that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and just to concentrate on God, something holier than self and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Get back to the sex of things though, so as not to slip into to ‘bad sex‘. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. THIS is a ‘peaceful’ way to live. No one HAS to have sex, but if you do then try this way 7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. Assume sexless, no wife to have to deal with. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. I don’t know if the gift is to co habitat with another, or to not 😉
Now another thought, since this followed the talk about staying married to an unbeliever. What if the question presented had something to do with being married to and having sex with husband or wife who is an unbeliever? And some thinking because they are believers they are better than their unbelieving half?
25 Now concerning virgins: I have no commandment from the Lord; yet I give judgment as one whom the Lord in His mercy has made trustworthy. My opinion is based on my guidance from God 26 I suppose therefore that this is good because of the present distress—present distress?that it is good for a man to remain as he is: 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short, so that from now on even those who have wives should be as though they had none, 30 those who weep as though they did not weep, those who rejoice as though they did not rejoice, those who buy as though they did not possess, 31 and those who use this world as not misusing it. For the form of this world is passing away.32 But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord.33 But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. 34 There is[a] a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. Being married , the responsibilities taken when marrying, do take the complete focus off of God. If caring for a husband or wife properly, then the children, world life will get in the way of spiritual life35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.36 But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry. 37 Nevertheless he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his own will, and has so determined in his heart that he will keep his virgin, does well. 38 So then he who gives her in marriage does well, but he who does not give her in marriage does better.39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgment—and I think I also have the Spirit of God. Maybe the ‘present distress’ is an engaged man, who does not want to consummate and turn the engagement to a marriage. They did engagement and marriage differently than we do now. And people are thinking it ‘unfair’ for him to not continue into the marriage part. Paul could be explaining, covering many things at the same time, that if this guy is not wanting to have make next step it is fine, since he is already obliged to care for the virgin anyway, as long as he is not tempted elsewhere. Maybe.