1 Corinthians 7

⁸ But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; Assumption right.  ⁹ but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. Get married and have sex.¹⁰ Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. ¹¹ But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. PAUL says don’t divorce. Not just Paul, but God too.BUT if it happens, don’t remarry. . ¹² But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. ¹³ And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. ¹⁴ For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. Paul advises believers to stick out a marriage so as to bring the unbeliever spouse to belief, and to protect the children ¹⁵ But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; the unbeliever can make the choice, this would ‘release’ the believers obligation.  a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. ¹⁶ For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? By a believer relying on God, and making the choice to not contend, turn the other cheek, peace and contentment could be had, as well as belief for the unbeliever, then ….¹⁷ But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one, so let him walk. And so I ordain in all the churches. this seems like a jump back to the previous talking ¹⁸ Was anyone called while circumcised? Let him not become uncircumcised. Was anyone called while uncircumcised? Let him not be circumcised. ¹⁹ Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing, but keeping the commandments of God is what matters. Don’t  change your ‘circumstances’ to ‘prove’ belief. Just believe and abide to GOD’s commandments, not mans membership rules. ²⁰ Let each one remain in the same calling in which he was called. ²¹ Were you called while a slave? Do not be concerned about it; but if you can be made free, rather use it. ²² For he who is called in the Lord while a slave is the Lord’s freedman. Your worldly ‘work’ not what makes you believer. Likewise he who is called while free is Christ’s slave. All believers become a slave to Christ, we are obedient to He. ²³ You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. Do not live out your ‘belief’ to please men. You do not owe the man who presented gospel anything. Christ bought us,we belong to him. ²⁴ Brethren, let each one remain with God in that state in which he was called. I would think that would be ‘humble’, for all. 

Now another thought, since this followed the talk about staying married to an unbeliever. What if the question presented had something to do with being married to and having sex with husband or wife who is an unbeliever? And some thinking because they are believers they are better than their unbelieving half?

²⁵ Now concerning virgins: I have no commandment from the Lord; yet I give judgment as one whom the Lord in His mercy has made trustworthy. My opinion is based on my guidance from God ²⁶ I suppose therefore that this is good because of the present distress—present distress?that it is good for a man to remain as he is: ²⁷ Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. ²⁸ But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.²⁹ But this I say, brethren, the time is short, so that from now on even those who have wives should be as though they had none, ³⁰ those who weep as though they did not weep, those who rejoice as though they did not rejoice, those who buy as though they did not possess, ³¹ and those who use this world as not misusing it. For the form of this world is passing away.³² But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord.³³ But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. ³⁴ There is^[a] a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.  Being married , the responsibilities taken when marrying, do take the complete focus off of God. If caring for a husband or wife properly, then the children, world life will get in the way of spiritual life³⁵ And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.³⁶ But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry. ³⁷ Nevertheless he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his own will, and has so determined in his heart that he will keep his virgin, does well. ³⁸ So then he who gives her  in marriage does well, but he who does not give her in marriage does better.³⁹ A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. ⁴⁰ But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgment—and I think I also have the Spirit of God.  Maybe the ‘present distress’ is an engaged man, who does not want to consummate and turn the engagement to a marriage. They did engagement and marriage differently than we do now. And people are thinking it ‘unfair’ for him to not continue into the marriage part. Paul could be explaining, covering many things at the same time, that if this guy is not wanting to have make next step it is fine, since he is already obliged to care for the virgin anyway, as long as he is not tempted  elsewhere. Maybe.